Coercive control isn't always one obvious incident. It can be a pattern of jealousy, monitoring, intimidation, isolation and changing behaviour that gradually takes away your freedom and confidence. I didn't have the words for what I was experiencing at the time. Looking back now, I understand that I wasn't just living with individual incidents — I was living in a pattern of control and fear.
Tag: Controlling Behaviour
Day 2: It Isn’t Jealousy. It Isn’t Love. It’s Control.
Jealousy is often mistaken for love, but there is a difference between feeling jealous and using jealousy to control someone. What started with accusations over where I looked and who I laughed with gradually became monitoring, constant messages, isolation and changing my own behaviour to avoid his reactions. This is what control looked like in my relationship.
