Trust me, I am the biggest hypocrite when it comes to the title of this blog post. However I am starting to learn that bottling things up, is not the answer to solving your problems. This is why I’m going to share my own experience with this, as I don’t want people to make the same mistake as me. See I’ve been quite quiet on here because I’ve basically kept a lot to myself for a very long time, and in the last 2 weeks, things have happened, where the things I’ve bottled up for a long time, have had to come out, because they are stopping me from doing other things. Does that make sense? Don’t really want to go into too much detail, but there’s been things that have come up from like 15 years ago, that have affected me that I’ve only just talked about, and then there’s been things that have happened in the last 3 years, that I’m only just talking about.
So why is it important to talk? Its important because you don’t want to be like me, who has bottled things up for such a long time, that now, it makes it even harder to talk to people. Also the longer you leave it, the longer you push those troubles aside and then it will leave you with bigger problems in the future, because those troubles won’t go away. Trust me, it may seem like the easier option now but its not, because they will come back and haunt you. With my situation, I was worried about people not believing me at the time, had I of told someone, I probably wouldn’t of had to of gone through a lot of the things I did. This probably makes no sense to people, but one day I will tell you all when I’m ready, and you’ll understand a lot more. Right now, I’ve only told two people, and so its very fresh, as this has only happened in the last 2 weeks, but all I will say is, you should never have to go through everyday life feeling scared of someone.
It may not seem like the first thing you want to do right now, but I promise you talking to someone about something that’s bothering you, no matter how big or small you think it is, will be the best thing you’ve ever done, and you’ll thank yourself in the future for it. Through my experience, the longer you let things build up, the more confusing things get, by talking out loud, it makes things less scary and its never too late to talk either. Like I said, for the last 3 years I’ve kept something to myself and I’m only just talking about it now, and I feel better for it, and you will feel like a weight has been lifted off your shoulders.
This is what makes the biggest amount of sense to me. These troubles you have, are ones that you want to move on from aren’t they? You don’t want them anymore, and you want to live a life without them. If you keep them bottled up, you are taking them with you through the next day of your life, and then the next day, and the day after that. If you talk to someone, you will hopefully soon be able to put them problems in the past, and start to enjoy the present. Easier said than done, I know that, but there’s happiness at the end of it all. Surely that’s worth it right?
Give your pain a voice.